When I see young couples get married I can’t say that I’m not a tinge jealous, because I am! Who wouldn’t want to have a day to themselves where you get to eat cake, dance, receive gifts, and wear a gorgeous dress walking down the aisle? (sidenote: I already planned my wedding dress. Le sigh) What crosses my mind when people my age (23) get married is “how the hell did they come up with all that money?”
Marriage to ME is something that you decide on when you are an adult, ready to start a family, combine finances and start a life together. When I get married, I want to be able to finance at least 80% of the wedding ourselves. I know my parents (both sets) and the BF’s parents would love to help and I will gladly oblige but I am not one to have them pay for my entire wedding and I do not want to fund a wedding with credit.
I recently found out that about 7 gals in my sorority and 5 other people I’ve known since junior high are getting married this year. We are all relatively in the same age bracket and I can’t figure out how everyone is funding these weddings. I would like a small and intimate beach wedding with a pretty dress, good food and great company. I still think I would need about $10,000 in cash to afford everything. After I’m married I want to concentrate on building our life together without heavy debt. BF already has school loans so why would I want to add to that and a future mortgage? That reminds me, I should start a wedding fund.
Is everyone getting their parents to fund their weddings?
What’s the deal?!
For the BF and myself, I feel like we are doing things backwards. We already know we want to get married in the future and have kids but right now we are focusing on our careers, making investments, saving for travel, and saving for a place of our own. We have lived together throughout college and we do everything married couples do. I can’t help but wonder if I am missing out on being married like all my friends.
How did you save/pay for your wedding? Cash, credit? What was the total cost? How old were you?