11.29.2011

The Golden Handcuffs


I'm sure you've heard of the term "golden handcuffs" before. You feel like you are staying at your job only because you need to support the life you want to live. I enjoyed reading this article at Your Life in Their Life's blog and the first part just hit home for me -


"The office cubicle that replaced your dorm room has now become your jail cell.  You leave the cell at night, but you don't feel you ever truly get away.  You might not hate what you're doing, but you definitely wouldn't do it for free."


SO DANG TRUE. Obviously I only started working full-time almost 2 years ago but still I am already getting the feeling of working to live and not living to work. I would love to live to work and enjoy my job thoroughly and feel as though I am making a huge difference in the world but how could I also enjoy my life with all the things I buy and do by just volunteering? The only reason why I stay at my job is to get further in my career, and to make more money to support the life I want to live. That's the whole premise of my blog.


His blog entry talked about how our success at our jobs leads us to believe that we earned rewards so we end up buying ourselves items that we see fit for our lifestyle. The major question was: Are the cuffs tightening due to the amount of money you're making or due to the increased standard of living you enjoy with the money?

10 comments:

The Girl Next Door said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

The first job I got I stayed at for 3 years because of the recession, but also because I couldn't afford to get a lower-paying job within the industry, and that sucked. Successful people say you should do what you love. What I love doing is shopping, watching tv, and looking at cat pictures on the internet. Who's going to pay me to do that?

Michelle P said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I agree with the Girl Next Door. I enjoy shopping, watching tv, and looking at dog pictures haha. Where can I find that job?

shoppingtosaving said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

UGH ME THREE! I want to online window shop, tweet about it, facebook about it, and write blog posts about it. I think this is something like social media haha:) I'm obvs in the wrong field!

MizzJ said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

haha I so agree, the people who say that you should do what you enjoy, just were lucky enough to have lucrative hobbies! I think though that it's realistic to find a satisfying career though. I think it just takes awhile to find it. Most entry level positions are not it haha

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Lisa said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

omgosh the person that wrote i love to shop, watch tv and look at pictures of cats made me LOL!! hahaha will someone pay me to blog.. because even blogging sometimes feels like a job hahahah

My money, my life said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I think part of the reason people feel the "golden handcuffs" tightening is also due to the fact that they're losing the passion for their jobs. I agree that we should try to find jobs that we enjoy, but it does take work to continually enjoy ones job, just like a relationship. Also, just beacuse a job is something a person wouldn't do for free doesn't mean that he/she can't enjoy it knowing that they need a form of income somehow.

Personally I think the idea of the job that you're ecstatic about, every single day, is overrated and unrealistic, just like most relationshpis can't always be fireworks, passion and butterflies. Sure, if a person hates every single second of their time on the job and is only there for the money, then it's not a healthy situation and they should probably consider some alternatives. But most of the time there are pros and cons to any job and there's a lot that we can do to make it feel more personally fulfilling, instead of dreaming of the "perfect job" that may not exist.

My money, my life said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

btw, my comment wasn't a dig at you, the other commenters, or the blogger you referred to. Just my two cents - but I would also like a job of watching TV, shopping, and looking at cat/dog pictures much better than the work I currently do :)

shoppingtosaving said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

No worries MYML! I totally get where you're coming from. All the logic I've been studying, it makes total sense and I see your pov haha. It is true though and ur right. I've been in a relationship for 6 years and there are TONS of days when there are no fireworks. BF and I came up with a list for staying at a job, and if you have at least 3 out of the 6 on the list or something like that it's a good job. I should post it up on my next post.

Rafiki said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Kinda late on this one but I really enjoyed it and the comments that came after. If you still have it in the works I would definitely like to about that good job list you and the bf have going there.

Financial Samurai said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Give it 8 more years to make it 10 to see how you feel after!

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