I heard an interesting conversation on the radio the other day, and I'd really like to hear more input and see what others think.
The radio station djs were arguing about whether you should teach your children to fight back if they are threatened or hurt in school by other classmates.
What would you do if your child was threatened, being bullied, or hit by another classmate during school hours? Would you tell your child to fight back or would you tell them not to?
Obviously, as a parent, I'm sure you would want your child to be safe and so you would teach your child to defend themselves. It would be devastating for any child to endure being tortured at school, harassed, threatened, for doing nothing wrong. On the other hand, by teaching them how to fight back, are you teaching them violence and that it's okay to hit people? Will they understand the difference between hitting someone in self defense and when they're not?
There was a heated argument on air between two of the djs, and I can see why they were both caught up in their arguments, but I wanted to hear other people's thoughts.
Since I'm not a parent, I can't imagine what it would feel like if my kids were being bullied, threatened, or harassed at school. These days, you never know what could happen in school and sadly it's not as safe a place as it once was with the reality of school shootings taking place around the country.
I think I can side with teaching my future kids how to defend themselves and how to fight back, but at the same time stress the importance of values, letting others know what's going on (like teachers and other adults like myself) in hopes of a physical attack could be avoided. I'm just not sure how I would go about this. I think it would have to depend on the child too, and what his/her personality is like to begin with.
If you would teach them how to fight back, I'm curious to know how you would do this and how you would try to teach them that violence is otherwise not okay. I think it would have to be taught when they are a bit older so they could fully understand, but I'm not sure what age would be appropriate. I guess that would have to be on a case-by-case basis.